Archive for the ‘Introspection’ Category

The Urge to Fill a Space….

September 25, 2014

I’ve owned my Camry for a number of years and recently found a new storage area! It’s a hidden compartment under the storage area in the dashboard.

camry hidden storage

Hmmm, what can go in there? Change? iPod? Tissues?  Then I caught myself. Why should anything go in there? There is lots of available room in the glove box, the door pockets, the double-compartmented console, and the seat backs.

I reminded myself that ’empty space’ is not ‘wasted space’. It is just space that is not filled with something tangible.  Sometimes it highlights a space that is filled with something, like when advertisers leave ‘white space’ in an advertisement to draw your attention to another place on the page.  Kitchen cabinets and file drawers need ‘wasted space’, room to put your hand when you maneuver things around.

I know this; clients have heard me say it for years.

So what did I do?  I put the cassette adapter for my iPod and phone in it.

Then promptly forgot where the adapter was and bought another. : )







Pick up your socks!

May 10, 2011

Blog’s been off line due to renovations, now it’s time to get back to regular posts.

What’s picking up your socks got to do with this topic of creating the life you enjoy best?

All those little actions you do count toward something bigger. Choosing to pick up your socks instead of walking over them changes futures. Getting back to this blog is my version of picking up my socks. Wonder what this entry will lead to?

From the heart…..

January 21, 2010

Wanted to share this with you. It’s from someone working her way through a communication dilemma…..(used with permission from C. D.) 

I did not have a discussion yet
             I really wanted to ponder my thoughts 

                           and not react out of anger or resentment 

I know her intentions were good 
              I just don’t want to hop on board 

                           I want to be free  

I will address it soon (I hope)


Powerful Questions

January 18, 2010

The Power of Questions
“Be patient toward all that is unresolved in your heart.
Try to love the questions themselves.
Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given because you would not be able to live them.
And the point is to live everything. Live the question now.
Perhaps you will then gradually without noticing it,
Live along some distant day into the answers.”  ~Rainer Maria Rilke

When I read Rilke’s beautiful thoughts, I wrote the following.  While production and efficiency are important, they are there only to support you, your self and your life.

 I wish for you that in the busy-ness of your thoughts and concerns, your relationships and your life, that it this reminds us to stop, think, and most of all, question.   ~ Leslie Robison

There are days when questions are thrilling, enticements to places that are bright and windy and cozy and colorful and filling and comforting, leading into ideas and possibilities and all that is sacred about being alive.

They are like slowly rolling a smooth and warm orb between your palms, feeling the gentle pressure in your spine through your hands.

Some days questions don’t arrive at all, pushed aside by concerns and demands; those are the days that pass too quickly, that are unexperienced, unfelt.

Then there are days when they are cumbersome and distracting, pulling toward places that are uninviting and the air is thin. Those are the days that benefit most, I think, when one can summon the breath to face them, revel in them, wear them, explore them. Then that is the powerful beauty of a question.

And in time, those very questions can become thrilling again.


Doing everything but….

January 18, 2010

Why is it that when we have to do something we really really don’t want to do that the jobs we previously put off become more interesting?

Some of the tasks we procrastinate about are boring, seem too huge to think about, have negative feelings associated with them.  Yet at some point a task that’s ‘bigger and ‘badder’ comes along to change our perception.

Hmmm, does this mean the next time all we have to do is think of a worse activity to make the one in front of us palatable?


Anxiety & new directions

January 7, 2010

The second episode of “This Emotional Life” last night aired in Philadelphia on WHYY.

From the WHYY site: Why do we have negative emotions and how can we best manage them?     In the second episode, Facing Our Fears, we look at emotions that are commonly regarded as obstacles to happiness — such as anger, fear, anxiety, and despair.

In my profession as a coach/consultant specializing in personal productivity, these are common themes.  The inquiry call is usually about managing paperwork, how to use Outlook more effectively, tracking tasks, getting a great performance review.  The situations are as varied as the people involved, yet have a common theme: Every person feels some level of anxiety about how they compare to others, how they feel they may be falling short of other’s expectations and more importantly, how they’re failing their expectations of themselves.   The “I should be able to ….”

There are places they want to go, visions they want to articulate into being, things bubbling  and waiting to be said aloud.

For many people, simply talking about these issues is enough to break through inertia and self-doubt. For others, more intensive guidance and support is required through therapists and maybe even medication.

The critical first step, though, is reaching out for support and education. Facing what’s already facing you.


Take a break already!

December 21, 2009

“But I’m too busy to take 10!” 

 You’re kidding, right?  Of course you have time. 

There are days when split-second timing is required. However, many times the feeling of having to operate at full tilt is just that, a feeling.

 Taking a break isn’t a wasteful indulgence. It increases your ability to remain in control by giving your creative side a chance to contribute to what you’re doing.  It reduces the errors that inevitably come from working too quickly. Taking a moment to enjoy the sensations of a cup of your favorite drink can boost your sense of well-being and optimism. Use a break to reward yourself for completing something.

Need permission?  Present the coupon below to yourself or anyone who questions how the cup in your hands is helping you accomplish.

 We’d love to take a break with you, but the best we can do is offer is a a virtual  cup of hot chocolate.  

Outlook Tip
In Outlook you can easily configure an email for a ‘delayed send’. In Outlook 2007, open a new email, click on Options and choose ‘Delay Delivery’ to set when the email will be sent. 

Some reasons might be to wait until someone has returned from vacation, send a birthday greeting, or that last month’s book giveaway was for response on a specific day. 

End of Year Tip
What’s your plan to move information files pertaining to 2009 away from ‘active’ areas? 

Did you know Goodwill provides shredding services? The same terrific folks that create jobs by redistributing your unneeded items to others also provide shredding and janitorial services.  



 This coupon entitles the bearer to take 15 minutes of Creative Time, which may look suspiciously like goofing off.  Must be used away from the computer screen and phone.   May be shared. Best used with a cup of something tasty.
Offer Expires: Always valid.